Distraction of exercise took away my pain
THIS one is for all you mums and dads out there.
How tricky is it to keep parts of your old life while trying to figure out this life of parenting, and partnering while parenting?
Belinda Joyce, the author of Survive and Enjoy Your Baby: How to Find Your Path to Parenthood, recommends: "Be kind to yourself, take it slowly getting back in shape after a baby (we're not Hollywood stars), ask for help from health professionals and friends and family.”
I have had the pleasure of raising three children.
While I thought I knew it all, it turns out I'm still being schooled.
In the early days of parenting, I gave my all to the task of wife and mum without realising I was losing a whole heap of what made me, me.
I stopped working, stopped sport, stopped going out and put on 30kg.
My top weight was 99.9kg.
In essence, I stopped doing a lot of what had given me my identity.
Through that period, my marriage crumbled.
Life got out of control and school was back on.
I had three children under the age of 18 months - one girl and twin boys.
My family unit disintegrated when the children were young, and I was lost - lost at how I was to make it through alone.
I started exercising as a distraction to the hurt and pain I was feeling, using it to productively fill my time when the kids were away with their father
That activity grew, taking hold and becoming a need.
When I had finished exercising, I felt so much better about my direction for the day. I felt like I was taking control back.
When you feel yourself getting stronger in your body, you can't help but feel yourself getting stronger in your mind.
Where you start is never where you finish.
From a basic, solid foundation, you can rediscover you and start to rebuild your self-worth. A basic foundation can build the tallest, most glorious of homes. Exercise your muscles, feel the beat of your heart and get more flexion in your life.