Tragedy evokes kindness at morning of remembrance
THE inaugural morning of remembrance and celebration to remember babies gone too soon was held at St Peter's Parish Centre at Biggenden last Friday.
Organiers, Moira Thompson, Steph Rackemann and Lauren McNaughton had prepared a beautiful moving service which encouraged attendees to share their intimate and powerful stories without pressure.
Mrs Rackemann, a nurse and midwife as well mother of two children said although she had not experienced infant loss, had worked with a lot of families who have.
"One of the best questions we can ask our friends and family is as simple as "are you ok?”,” she said.
"Sometimes talking is the best thing for the pain we are feeling inside.
"Sitting can be very supportive and shows your compassion.”
Moira Thompson said the field of sunflowers planted by the McNaughton family could teach so many lessons and also bought so many surprising blessings.
"A tragedy evokes kindness, and the planting of the flowers gave so much, not only as a fundraiser, but as a gift to the community,” she said.
Mrs McNaughton said when their friends left a Perth hospital after their little boy was born sleeping, they were given a packet of sunflowers.
"We decided when we planted 75 acres of sunnies on our farm, to honour our godson we dedicated a paddock we named Nate's Paddock with raised $1500 for Stillbirth Australia,” she said.
Mrs McNaughton said the exercise generated conversation.
"So many people, some total strangers came and told me their story of losing their baby to miscarriage, stillbirth and SIDS.
”It was heartbreaking, but people reached out having not spoke of their loss before.
”Which brings us to why we are here today, speaking out and asking for help is a big step but you would be surprised at how many people are going through heartache just like you.”
Everyone was given the opportunity to place a butterfly on the wall as a reminder of the children being remembered on the day.